One size does not fit all when it comes to counselling different models of counselling achieve different results.
Counselling is designed to give you space, time, focus and encouragement to explore and understand what is going on for you. The aim of counselling is to follow a process through which counselling will help you to:
- Express your true feelings without judgment.
- Understand your situation more objectively.
- Become more aware of the impact of your legacy
- Break negative patterns of behaviour, often learned from others in your past and present.
- Change negative behavioural attitudes, patterns and cycles
- Make better-informed decisions from the choices available to you.
- Resolve emotional issues from the past that still impact the present
- Work with issues in the present that need attention to allow you to move forward.
- Help to develop tools that will assist you as you resolve and move on.
It is a wonderful feeling to talk to, someone who will be really listening to everything we have to say. No interruptions no one robbing the conversation and talking about themselves When situations get on top of you and you feel sad and overwhelmed counselling will really help you. A counsellor is trained to listen, not to judge or blame, and aim to build a strong relationship with each client, based on trust, empathy, honesty and respect. Effective counselling is all about movement. The objective is to move from where you are now to a better place, find some clarity and inevitability feel so much better and move forward The counselling process should enable you to do just that.
“The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have professionally and personally.”
If your self-esteem is low, it will manifest itself in lots of different ways. You may have the feeling that you are never really feeling good enough, no matter what you have achieved in life. You will often go the extra mile for people with this not being reciprocated. We often look outside of ourselves to feed our self-esteem. This could be with love from others, material success, professional achievement, even fame. When self-esteem is an issue, no matter what you fill your life with, you will always go back to the place within you that tells you that you’re not good enough. If you carry an inner bully that has a critical voice and tells you that you are not good enough, it’s time to face them head-on. As with any bully, when challenged they run away and you break the myth.
Confident people are not brash or overpowering. They are usually calm and respectful of themselves and others. They are aware of their strengths and proud of their achievements. They can take ownership of their weaknesses without treating themselves in a harsh way. They are happy to embrace change and learn from others. When we lack confidence in ourselves, we are often very fearful of rejection and criticism. This keeps us from being honest with ourselves and others. No one is perfect and acceptance that we are not or ever will be perfect allows us to embrace the qualities we have.
When we increase our self-esteem and build our confidence, we can accept we have the right to make decisions that are right for us. Assertive behaviour enables us to act on our own best interests and to stand up for ourselves without undue anxiety. However, to find true assertiveness we need to be aware that to state our case or say no to an unreasonable request should never be delivered with aggression or passive aggression. Assertiveness is a true art that will ensure we keep the respect of others. We need to learn to deliver our message in a calm, honest and respectful way.
Wherever focus goes, energy flows. Commitment to growth and change sets you free to live and maintain the life you choose.
Coaching is the process of identifying your desires, talents, dreams and goals and bringing your vision to reality with confidence self-belief. structure and accountability
Coaching enables people to discover their potential and maximise their ability to achieve significant success in their personal and professional lives. It enables you to stand back and take stock of what is important to you, what you are trying to achieve, why you want to achieve it and how best to reach that success.
Coaching is about movement and asks some simple yet powerful questions:
- Where am I going?
- How do I get there?
- What do I want the future to look like?
The International Coaching Federation adheres to a form of coaching that honours the client as the expert in their life and work and believes that every client is creative, resourceful and whole.
The coach’s responsibility is to:
- Ask the client questions to allow them to explore their own resources and solutions for moving forward.
- Identify what the client’s goals are.
- Explore ways of achieving these goals by generating solutions and strategies.
- Explore ways of changing negative attitudes and patterns of behaviour from the past to allow the process to proceed.
- Encourage the client to build confidence, self-belief, and self-awareness.
- Empower the client and hold them responsible and accountable.
- Offer guidance and support.
- Monitor and celebrate success.
Coaching is solution and results orientated. When you feel the movement from coaching and really understand the benefits you will excel to a place of personal excellence and fulfilment. You will be equipped with practical tools and techniques to use every day to help you create lasting and positive change.
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